Tips to start a new life
Starting a new life is a big change. The tips below will help you make a smooth transition.
Make changes slowly. Allow time to adjust.
Take an inventory of your strengths. Don't believe that the failure of your marriage makes you a failure.
Live in the present. Strive to be positive.
Let positive people into your life. Share your feelings with them in order to gain the support you need.
Develop old and new interests.
Take charge of your life—make your own decisions. Don't get caught up in the blame game.
Prolonged stress can reduce the immune system's effectiveness and lead to a variety of symptoms. Minimize prolonged stress through self-care:
Good nutrition, plenty of rest, and moderate exercise.
Doing relaxing activities
Connect with supportive people.
Some important messages you can give them
advice on how to deal with children during divorce
What children need
How to talk to your kids
Important Messages to Give Your Children
Tell your children:
"I love you. I will always be available."
"It's not your fault."
That feelings are okay. It's not wrong to feel sad, angry, etc. as well as to miss and love both parents.
Actions must be controlled.
What Children Need
To have a positive relationship with both parents.
To have their parents communicate directly so they are not trapped in the middle.
To avoid hearing one parent criticize the other.
To have private time with each parent weekly.
How to Talk to Your Kids
Listen attentively. Make eye contact.
Acknowledge the child's feelings without trying to fix them. Example: "It sounds like you are angry," instead of, "Cheer up. Don't be upset."
Give the child his wishes in fantasy. Example: "I wish I could make that come true for you."
Remember all feelings are to be accepted and respected even though certain actions must not be tolerated